Oppression // Compassion
One element of my work as a Reiki energy healer and parental estrangement guide is to illuminate for my clients how society is built upon multiple systems of oppression which exhaust and have betrayed everyone. Including your parents! People unwittingly participate in upholding these systems - which directly contributes to our suffering and sabotages our lived experience.
These forms of dominance have created toxicity and imbalance on mind, body, and energetic levels. In our work together, I help you reclaim your life from the teeth of societal chaos and inner overwhelm by showing you how to disrupt these destructive systems.
This means listening to your pain. I welcome your rage and intense emotions - and will be there to teach you how to befriend (master) them. I will give you tools, space, time, and guided mentorship as you challenge and begin to liberate yourself from outdated destructive thinking and behaviors.
Where there is clarity, there is relief.
Where there is safety, there is growth.
What I offer is the sum of my time spent studying and personally applying to my own life: metaphysical and spiritual truths, neuroscientific data, and trauma informed care for mind + body + spirit wholeness.
Your reward for the commitment to the work you put in is personal transformation beyond the limits of what you can comprehend today.
The world needs you to heal, so that you can heal.
“If you wait for something to happen…nothing’s gonna happen.”
Always Sending Love To Trans People Everywhere
Here in The States - it’s no doubt been made much harder to navigate life’s challenges due to the political arson and sabotage of dangerous, untrustworthy people.
A day or two ago Donald Trump signed an Executive Order mean to further separate, intimidate, dehumanize and “other” people in the trans community. Red meat for the bigoted and amygdala-hijacked. Primarily but not limited to NCAA. This also affects public high schools, and the Olympics. Trump specifically anointing Kristi Noem as watch dog to enforce preventing letting international athletes who are trans compete in the 2028 Los Angeles Olympics. Trump recently has also banned trans Americans from serving in the military.
THIS CRUELTY IS NOT NORMAL.
But is a feature among the emotionally and intellectually undeveloped.
This is not about trans. It’s not about the military. I’ll tell you exactly what this is about. White History is slavery. The legacy of white history is violence, Christian theocratic terrorism, murder, rape, betrayal, theft, criminality, dehumanizing and “othering” of people who are not straight white males.
Take the 1,000 foot view of Trump’s Executive Order limiting the rights of and oppressing trans people.
What is being centered, and has been centered, is white women’s tears and fears. For 5 centuries here the myths created by white people include the “benevolent, civil, rugged individualist, pioneer, peacemaker.” None of which are true of course but baked into this fiction small-hearted whites are addicted to is the myth that white men are “protectors of women.” And so then therefore for centuries we’ve seen violent whites use dehumanizing language against Native Americans, Latinos, and the Africans and Black Americans whom whites enslaved. These minorities who white people terrorized were portrayed as “dangerous,” “criminal,” “rapists,” “illegals,” “beasts,” “hypersexual,” “dumb,” “dangerous,” etc. And this fed into the ridiculous myth white men had some kind of sacred, holy quest to protect white women from these “beasts.”
So here’s another white blonde Riley Gaines on Fox News crying about how unsafe and offended she feels because of trans athletes. (Analysis of her self-hatred and internalized misogyny is for another time.) But whose fault is it that Riley Gaines is afraid of people she continually refuses to understand? This is Riley Gaines’ fault. She, along with other violent white male status quo enthusiasts have for centuries framed the American (and to be clear “American” to them means only straight whites in service to white male rule by violence) lived experience as what makes the violent whites comfortable, and what makes violent whites uncomfortable.
Do you see how they have intentionally distorted this? They’ve made it so that whatever makes violent whites uncomfortable is at fault and deserves the blame. Because after all according to white myths their whiteness means they alone are “holy” and Blackness then means sin, hell, and the devil. So if you’re following - in accordance with white myths about themselves - anything that threatens the ignorance and comfort of violent white status quo is a “sin” and grievous offense. See how they’ve taken the focus off their shame, violence, and neglect?
Riley Gaines and the other violent white status quo enthusiasts in regressive media have repeatedly chosen not to educate themselves, not to open their hearts, not to be curious, or fulfill their obligations to society as trustworthy adults. The onus is and always was on them. It’s important when we see this we point it out. And they blew it. They neglected their obligations.
Cruel, dangerous people know the systems in the United States have been set up to protect those in service to violent white male status quo. So historically these willfully negligent people have been protected by the police, court systems, and as we can still plainly see they are still inoculated from accountability from violent white male status quo media empires which intentionally frame the issue not as how shameful it is for bigoted whites to constantly choose hatred and fear, but rather (trans) people who violent whites have refused to understand, and are fearful and hateful of - have offended the ignorance and comfort of conformist, dangerous whites.
What white women are most in danger of is being raped, stalked, assaulted, kidnapped and killed by white males. THAT is the central issue being ignored and distracted from. Trans is not the issue. White men still being the apex predator is the issue. Everything else is window dressing meant to distract. Because so long as this problem cannot be named, it cannot be fought. And if the problem of white male violence were ever to be solved - complicit enablers protecting white male violence in media would risk losing their finances. And if they lose their finances they lose their power.
What an awful society we have to live in because of violent and deceitful white people who refuse to heal what they’ve done.
My love and support go out to anyone who works to promote peace.
My love and support go out to everyone who wants to do the work to heal what they’ve damaged. It is painful work. It requires humility, courage and ongoing commitment. That’s why most people don’t do it.
My love, support, words and thoughts go out to those in the trans community at this especially difficult time. I see you. I’m sorry. I’m really glad you’re here.
2025 Thoughts
Here to wish all of you warm Holidays and a New Year of abundance.
We’ve got a lot coming up in 2025 astrologically. And while I dabble, I’ll leave the high-level analysis to the experts. But what I will say today is something that is true for me, you, and all of us. No matter what the astrological weather - it’s important we all learn the skill of trusting ourselves. Knowing ourselves. Going in and listening to the Quiet. Developing our intuition so we can elevate our discernment.
It all comes back to, “Know Thyself.” Right?
The “wind” is going to blow often and hard in 2025. Be like the palm tree. They grow to be really tall and can live a long time. Why? Look how flexible they are. Do that. We are surrounded by nature that gives us the blue print.
Two keys to success are resilience and adaptability. Nature (and society, and politics) warns again and again the destruction that inevitably comes from rigidity. We can learn so much. BUT WE ARE NOT OUR POTENTIAL. We are what we do and do not do.
Earth is an advanced school for us souls. You wanted it. You got it!
Be well and do no harm.
Curiosity Is Key
12 - 16 - 2024
It seems to me curiosity is one of the most important things you can have. And if someone doesn’t have it it instantly limits them until they choose to have it.
Think about it. Think of all the people you can’t reach. They’re closed off. They won’t consider what you have to say. Facts to them don’t matter. You cannot reason with them. They’re not interested in truth. They will not consider it.
They are not curious.
There is an emotional component to this for sure. There are many ingredients in this gumbo, many factors. But don’t mistake explaining that something being “complex” for absolving a person’s ignorance, negligence, and abuse.
Many people choose to remain rigid, not emotionally elastic. In part because not knowing the truth is comfortable. “Ignorance is bliss.” This is why many people you can point to who are choosing cruelty have a worldview which is too simplistic - to their and everybody else’s detriment. Mythology and lies are emotionally important to people who will not be curious. They choose to keep their head buried there. It’s comfortable. It is seductive to stay inconsiderate when what you have been told is that you are the hero, this is the way this country and the world works (for you!).
Take emotional rigidity. When we are rigid, inconsiderate, unwilling to be curious, cruel!…that is the opposite of strong. What in nature could you describe as “strong” which does not adapt, evolve, flex, bend? It’s the same for people.
Curiosity is like a skeleton key which when turned can begin to unlock every door, every problem we have. If you’re reading this and it resonates with you or someone you know - I want to impart upon you that it is to your detriment if and when you find being critiqued intolerable. Ask yourself in what ways, which subjects, do you react to strongly when someone objects to you or what you already believe to be true?
I love thinking about these things. I have been on every side of them and live my life in such a way to always have an “emotional sonar” up to keep scanning for what ways my thinking keeps me back. How am I adding unnecessary suffering to myself and others? I take this lesson and this medicine the same as you do. It’s important for all of us to remain open and accepting of when we discover things about ourselves that are undesirable. Those things which bring up uncomfortable and sometimes fierce, flash reactions. I’m sending love to me and to YOU - wherever you are when you read this. We are having a human experience. It’s messy AND it’s beautiful. I wish for you and me love in these tough places. Courage to you and us all when we turn into the storm knowing it will not be comfortable and we are afraid of it - because we know that is where we become better. Wiser. Stronger. Better vision, clarity, and perspective.